How to Be Lonely Forever and Never get laid?
How to be lonely forever and never get laid? Well, I know how. So I have this friend I lost touch with but recently reconnected on Facebook with. He’s very lonely and depressed. I could help him with but he will never take my advice. He’s too blinded by his situation that he has no self perception. And he’s unwilling to participate in his own rescue.
Broadcast your misery on social media.
If you really want to be lonely and miserable, broadcast your misery on Facebook. Dwell on why you are such a mess. Tell everyone exactly why you are unhappy. This is exactly what my acquaintance did. He got online and wrote a whole long post, large enough to be a great blog post but with no spaces or subheadings, and pinned it to his Facebook profile. Granted, he could meet a woman who is not on social media, but he would just tell her in person. And she will promptly run away.
Fall in love with your story
We all have a story we tell ourselves. Humans have a need to know why? Why they are unhappy or why life is the way it is. We tell ourselves a story to relieve ourselves of the responsibility of making life better. This is the story of why I am unsuccessful or can’t find love: Because I’m too short or too tall… because I live in the wrong city, or because I didn’t go to college, or because I am bald, or because I am Black, Asian, White, Hispanic, Jewish, or fill in the blank.
But our stories don’t matter because for every lonely guy with a story, why he cannot not find love or sexual fulfillment, there is another guy with a crazier story who has a hot girlfriend or wife. Our stories don’t matter. The only question that matters about our stories is, is it productive or counterproductive? If your story is counterproductive, lose it.
But losers fall in love with their stories.
You can either be right or you can be rich.
Author unknown
When you see yourself as unloveable, you make it difficult for people to love you. Because your subconscious has a need to be right, it will prove you right.
Be desperate and Chase women online.
This hyper-needy male is the worse saddest case of desperation that drives women away instantly. The #1 rule in attracting women is don’t chase them. Chase excellence, chase success, chase happiness and adventure. Women are a byproduct of these things. Women don’t love under-dogs, they sit at the finish line and throw themselves at the winners.
Resign yourself to a purposeless life.
So my buddy with the disability, and who is recently divorced, is having an identity crisis. He doesn’t know who he is anymore, and he wants a woman to make it all better. Who doesn’t love beautiful women, they are like fine art. But beautiful women who are connected to their feminine energy want a stronger masculine energy to follow. This goes against modern feminism, but it is biologically true. A woman who is in her feminine energy wants a strong masculine energy in her life.
Feminine energy is beauty and chaos. Masculine energy is strength and security. If you do not know what your purpose is in life, you will give off feelings of insecurity and weakness. Women’s beauty and chaos attract men to them. Men’s strength and security draw women like magnets. When you have no purpose or direction in life, it repels women.
Be miserable.
A lot of us are guilty of saying: “When I am rich, I will be happy. When I have the perfect girlfriend, I’ll be happy.” But was is more likely is that when you decide to be happy you will find ways to earn more money. And when you learn to be happy now, you will attract women. But stay miserable and you will repel women and money.
How can I be happy?
This is not a definitive list of how to be happy. And you can add to it:
- Find little things to be grateful about.
- Exercise.
- Get a hobby.
- Find a task you enjoy doing that you can turn into a business.
- Be a friend and develop better friendships.
- Get a dog.
- Go to church.
- Play a group sport.
- Learn to laugh.
- Learn to laugh at yourself.
- Tell Jokes.
- Forgive yourself.
- Do something selfless for someone else.
- Be a giver.
- Play guitar.
- Learn a martial art.
- Start a business.
- Change your story.
- Smoke a cigar.
People really like to be around happy people. Friendly people make more friends. I have friends who play disc golf and are on an adult softball team.
Life should be a daring adventure or nothing at all.
Hellen Keller
My advice to my unhappy and lonely friend.
The bottom line is to stop broadcasting your misery on social media. Do not look for a woman to make you happy. You attract what you are. So if you are unhappy, you have to look deep into the abyss that is your mind and find out what you need to do to be happy now. If you are very unhappy in life, if you do attract a woman into your life, I guarantee you it will be one who is extremely miserable. Then your misery will multiply.
Accept where you are in life like a man and realize this is the state of being for men throughout all time. What it means to be a man is to face loneliness, adversity, and suffering. Welcome it! When life gives you hard times, difficulty and challenges say: “Is that all you got!” Even if you are scared, hurting and battered by life, you must defeat the storm within.
A measure of a leader of men and an attractor of women is that he is not emotionally affected by defeat or setbacks. Take a day, take two days, but don’t let one setback ruin the next year or the next ten years of your life by being emotionally invested in your story.
Read books like: Man’s Search for Meaning, The Biology of Belief, and Psycho Cybernetics.